When You Feel Alone: A Journey of Loneliness and the Cross

I live in a quiet house now.

Just me and the dogs, Penn and Riley.

After my wife, Wendy passed, the silence hit differently. It wasn’t just that the house was quiet—it was the absence. The conversations that don’t happen. The laughter that no longer echoes. The empty chair at the dinner table.

I’ve experienced loneliness at different stages of life.

I grew up without a father—he died when I was just four. I didn’t understand what it meant to be a son, and that made it hard to grasp what it meant to be a father and have a Heavenly Father.

Years later, I rushed into my first marriage out of fear—fear that no one else would ever love me, fear of being alone. That relationship ended with abandonment that cut deep and left scars.

But even with all those chapters, I can honestly say this:

Today, I know I am not alone.

Not because I’m surrounded by people—but because I’ve finally come to understand this truth:

Through every season, every loss, every night I thought no one saw me—Jesus was there.

This hasn’t been a quick lesson. It’s taken a lifetime of pain, surrender, and healing. But now, even in this quiet house, I know a peace that can’t be explained.

And I want to share that peace with you.

Middle-aged man sitting on a porch with two dogs, looking thoughtfully into the distance. — Some days are quiet, but never without company.

What This Series Is About

This blog series is for anyone who’s ever whispered:

“I don’t think I can do this alone.”

Because Jesus knows what it feels like to be abandoned.

On the cross, He was betrayed by friends, rejected by His people, and, in that moment of unimaginable anguish, even felt forsaken by His Father.

That moment—when Jesus cried, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”—is the anchor for this series.

Wooden cross on a grassy hill with a vibrant dusk sky in the background. — He was abandoned on the hill—so we’d never have to be.

Upcoming Posts in the Series – When You Feel Alone

1. Alone on the Cross: When Even God Feels Far Away

The moment Jesus endured ultimate abandonment—and why it gives us hope.

2. Fatherless: Learning to Trust a God You Can’t See

Growing up without a dad and struggling to connect with a Heavenly Father.

3. Love Lost: Rejection, Divorce, and the Fear of Being Alone

How fear led me into a relationship, and how God met me in its end.

4. The God Who Stays: Finding Faith When People Walk Away

When the people you love leave—and how God holds you together.

5. Redeeming the Lonely Places: Turning Pain into Purpose

How God transformed my deepest wounds into a ministry of healing.

Open Bible on a wooden table illuminated by a beam of warm, golden light. — In the quiet, His Word still speaks.

You’re Not Alone

This won’t be a list of quick fixes or feel-good sayings.

It’s a journey through real hurt and real hope.

If you’re in the middle of it, I want you to know: You are not alone—not now, not ever.

And if you’re further down the road like I am, I hope this reminds you of how far you’ve come—and how faithful God has been every step of the way.

Let’s walk through this together.

Silhouette of a man gazing upward against a vibrant sunset sky. — Looking up doesn’t always mean you have the answers—it means you’re still seeking.

Join the Conversation

👉 Follow along with the series, and if you know someone who’s struggling with loneliness or abandonment, send this their way.

I’d love to hear your story too—drop a comment below or message me privately.

You’re not alone.

Silhouette of a man walking a dog at sunset with a vivid, colorful sky in the background. — Some walks are quiet—but never without purpose.

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Stay Connected – You’re Not Alone in This Journey

You will find all of the blogs in the series at: https://www.discipleblueprint.com/category/loneliness

If this post spoke to your heart, don’t walk this road alone.

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